Losing someone we love is one of life’s most painful passages. Whether it is a spouse, a parent, a dear sibling, or a lifelong friend, the silence they leave behind can feel unbearable. In those quiet hours of grief, many people wonder if their loved ones still linger nearby—watching, guiding, or sending comfort from beyond.
It is not unusual to sense something after such a loss: a gentle touch on the shoulder, a fragrance that seems to appear out of nowhere, or a moment of calm that arrives when you need it most. But how can we know whether these experiences are truly signs from a loved one’s spirit—or whether they are something else entirely?
For older adults, especially those who have said goodbye to many dear companions over the years, these questions carry deep meaning. Understanding the difference between the comforting presence of a loved one and other unexplained energies can bring peace of mind and help ease the journey of grief.
1. The Energy They Carry
The first clue lies in the energy of the experience.
When the spirit of someone we love draws near, the feeling is almost always gentle and familiar. Many describe it as if a warm blanket has been wrapped around their shoulders. A sense of safety, peace, or even joy often washes over the heart. It feels like love itself reaching out across time and distance.
Other energies, however, tend to stir the opposite feelings. Instead of comfort, there may be unease. Some report sudden chills, a heaviness in the room, or a feeling of being watched. Instead of warmth, there is a coldness. If you walk away from the moment unsettled rather than uplifted, chances are it is not the presence of your loved one.